The Anniversary I Didnt Celebrate
Ijust looked at the calendar and realized that it was 20 years ago today that I married Raian (Rayan) Mazda. Yes, thats where the name comes from not my car, as some people may have thought. Had we remained married this would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. Scary sometimes how time goes by. He was a cousin of a dear friend and when we met I knew immediately that I was attracted to his dark good looks. What I didnt know was that I should have run the other way. But no, I went out on many dates with him and then totally lost my mind and said yes to finally marrying this guy.
Now I am not against marriage. In fact, Im still hoping to find my soul mate. So if you know a nice guy let me know. But I was thinking back to what I remember most about my ex. Some things were good, some bad, and some silly. I guess you could say 3 things truly stand out.
First, Raian was obsessed with airplanes and he wanted to be a pilot. His idea of a date was going to the airport and watching planes arrive and take off. Did you ever in your life hear of such a date? Here I am dressed to the hilt and looking FABULOUS and were going to the airport for our date. Instead of hanging out at the airport I told him to buy his own plane and that settled that. So I own half of this old piece- of- junk plane and he is bent on fixing it and taking flying lessons and promising eventually to take me around the world. So, he took lessons and one day he informs me it is his solo day. He will be flying alone to finally get his license. He gets up at 4am, heads to the airport and about 9am I get a call. Uh, Mrs. Mazda, your husband seems to be lost in the air. What the heck does that mean? It seems that somewhere along the journey to Virginia he took a detour, did his own thing and the radar lost him. He was down south somewhere and wasnt found for hours. Now I have gotten lost driving – but up in the air?
The second thing I remember was his complete fixation on watching cartoons. And third his idea of great Christmas gifts for the whole family was chia pets.
Well, needless to say it didnt last. I was trying to remember what I learned from it all. I think I learned that being attracted to someone is only part of a relationship. Next time Ill pay more attention to what we truly have in common, our values and how strong a friendship we share. So I guess Im not just 20 years older I hope Ive gotten 20 years wiser too.
Debra